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Real Domestic
Violence Tactics: Tutorial for Women on
Effective Use of DV AllegationsIn order
to maximize the objectives of your case, whether
that be custody of the children, possession of
the house, getting a better deal on
maintenance/child support, and/or just plain
getting revenge, this tutorial will help you get
the best results.
The first thing you have to remember is that all
women are assumed to be victims of domestic
violence. Years of lobbying by the "domestic
violence industry" for harsh laws and state and
federal funding have paid off. Most states have
draconian domestic violence laws that are there
to protect women from abusive men. Mandatory
arrest, primary aggressor laws, no-drop
policies, monolithic protection/no-contact
orders, and harsh penalties for DV crimes are
there to punish men, whether guilty of DV or
not. Once the system gets him in its tentacles,
he will be so messed up you will have a
veritable cake-walk to your ultimate goal: total
victory.
Here are some time-honored techniques on how
to work the system:
Get a Plan Ready at the First Sign of
Impending Divorce.As soon as you sense
trouble in the marriage, you must take action.
This is especially true if you have been at
fault (having an affair, mismanaging money,
abusing him or the children, drug/alcohol abuse,
etc). Even if there is the slightest
possibility of your husband resisting your
demands for everything, you need to play the DV
card.
Call the domestic violence hotline for advice.
They will give you step-by-step instructions on
how to get help with leaving, getting a
protection order, filing for divorce. They have
free counselors, will give you referrals to free
or low-cost legal help, and will put you up in a
nice hotel for at least a few days, if not
more. (Don't worry if YOU are the domestic
violence abuser. This is about helping women,
period. Even if you are a CONVICTED DV ABUSER,
the DV advocates will help you, not him).
Throw the Bum Out.
First step is to contrive a DV incident where
your husband gets arrested. Provoke a fight,
and hope he responds physically. You can even
try asking him, directly or indirectly. "I bet
you'd really like to slap me right now." Some
men will oblige, although stupidly for sure.
Anyway, you don't need to have been hit, pushed,
slapped or punched to get him arrested. Call
him into the bedroom to talk, and when he comes
in the doorway, scream "stop harassing me and
let me leave." When he says, "huh?" dart past
him out the door, then call 911. Be sure to
tell the dispatcher every detail of what
happened, his past abuse, threats, and how
afraid you are of him. They'll send two or
three squad cars out to your house pronto.
If you attack him first, lose your balance,
fall back and bump your head, even better. Now
you have "evidence" of his assault.
When the officers arrive, tremble and cry, and
say he lunged at you while threatening to kill
you. No proof of this is available, of course,
but that doesn't matter, only your word is
needed.
After they remove him in handcuffs, start
packing up his things and leave them on the
front porch. The court will let him come by
with a police officer to get his personal
property, and it will go much faster if you've
already put his stuff in big garbage bags.
Next day, go to your local district court and
file for a domestic violence protection order.
Be sure to ask for the works: no contact with
you, the children, no coming back to the house,
no going to the children's school, daycare,
sports events, etc. If you're not sure what to
say, just ask for a DV advocate and they'll help
you with the script.
Acting Tips for DV Victims.
When you get to the court hearing on the full
order for protection, be sure to follow these
tips to maximize your effectiveness as a victim.
When you see him come into the courtroom,
dramatically flinch and shrink back.
Cry, tremble and shake while you're giving your
testimony (this is especially effective when you
have papers in your hands that rattle loudly).
Be sure to ask that an armed deputy come
inside the courtroom during your hearing. Have
him stand between you and the beast, along with
a DV advocate or two.
Maximizing Aggravation of Your Protection
Order.When you apply for a DVPO, be sure
to ask for outrageous restraints against him,
such as prohibiting him from being "5000 yards"
from your residence, workplace and the
children's school. Go online and use a mapping
program to draw a large circle around anywhere
you'll be, and make sure he has to drive miles
out of his way to avoid being in violation of
the order. If he has established a separate
residence not far from the children's school, so
he can easily go to and from, you can even make
sure he can't be at his own home without risking
arrest.
Increasing the Chances of Getting Him
Arrested for Violation of the Order.
First, make sure the order is written badly, and
has confusing and contradictory provisions that
even a lawyer can't decipher.
Next, call him incessantly, and when he answers
and says even a word or two to you, report him
for violating the order.Even better, contrive
an emergency so he will have to come back to the
house. Tell him that your car won't start, and
ask him sweetly if he could please come over and
help? Promise not to turn him in for violating
the order. (Remember, YOU are not prohibited
from contacting him, so if he gets arrested and
complains that you invited him over, he is still
screwed and there are no adverse consequences to
you).
Playing with Fire and Not Getting Burned.
The occasional falsely accused man will
become violent solely due to the injustice
perpetrated against him. Use your judgment
about how far you want to push him. (Check with
the NRA on firearms self-defense training).
Having your husband arrested, charged, convicted
and jailed can affect your standard of living.
If he is the sole financial support of the
family, be sure to have an alternate means of
supporting yourself and the children during his
incarceration. He will certainly have lost his
job by the time he gets out. The stigma of
being a convicted DV abuser will prevent him
from obtaining a comparable position. Child
support and maintenance arrearages will quickly
rack up while he's in custody, but don't count
on collecting them anytime soon.
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